OK, there has been a bit of doom and gloom about these parts recently. That is because there is a lot of doom and gloom about these parts. Or at least the way that I perceive things has led me to interpret things in a ‘doom and gloom’ manner.
I suppose I could have blogged differently. I have been around people long enough to know that some never see things in this way. Although I often think many sometimes see things in this way but can never admit to doing so in public. I read a really helpful post on this yesterday which talked about perfectionism:-
‘We all know this is a hard habit to break once it starts. When you make your life look perfect, the pressure to maintain the illusion grows. No one sees what’s really happening, and no one knows about the exhausting cycle taking over your life’.
The article continued with 3 incisive paragraphs that were to me like water in a parched land:-
‘Breaking the cycle takes a few brave acts. It starts with admitting we’re not perfect, and taking the huge step of letting others see our flawed selves. It can start with small things, like inviting people over to an imperfect house, or showing an imperfect smile during a picture, or letting imperfect kids run a little wild sometimes. And no, it’s not about setting low standards, but about living real, honest lives.
Perhaps, an easy way to fight against our own perfectionism is to allow others to be imperfect. That means having patience, showing grace, and not judging others for their glaring flaws and weaknesses. It means cutting people some slack and realizing that they are probably doing the best that they can with what they got.
It’s important to remember that you aren’t a machine, or a project, or a problem. You don’t need fixing, and you don’t need to be perfect in order to grow. Our imperfections are what make us human, and they help us to relate to each other. So let’s show them off’.
And those words have encouraged me so much….